Hi love and lust chasers 💜💦
Humans are beautifully complex.
With different personalities, diverse backgrounds and multitude of outlooks on life, we each add our own spice into the world. 🌎
But when it comes to managing life, we fall into two main groups: 👇
1) Ones who need to control everything 💪
2) Ones who just go with the flow. ⛱️
We know that you’re probably trying to identify which group you fall into, but don’t waste your precious time with that.
We’ve got more juicy things to cover.
Controlling and letting go is pretty much related to everything we do in life.
From our work life to our romantic relationships, and even to the things we do under the sheets...
It’s possible that the ones who feel the need to control everything in their lives might be doing it unknowingly.
Because if they manage to control something, a desire to control more takes over them. And that becomes a vicious loop in itself. 🔁
Those are the control freaks you always hear about.
A deep need for control generally comes from a place of inner fear of the unknown. 😰
The more we know about the world around us, the safer we feel.
And just like the opposite, the less we know, the more we fear.
Unfortunately sometimes our fears get in the way of us living life to the fullest.
We might fear losing control because we may be afraid of embarrassment or look silly. But isn’t there something so refreshing about looking silly?
How often in life do we get a chance to just completely let go and live our lives to the fullest, especially as adults ❓
And controlling is not always about big things in life. It could be controlling how a project is progressing at work, errands of the house, or activities we do with our partner.
But the thing is, you don’t want to be %100 controlling to the point of creating something destructive. Letting go of control can help you enjoy life more. 😊
It can make love flow.
Imagine how your love life would be if you controlled everything about it?
You would inevitably shut the doors to possibilities of pleasure.
Wouldn’t it be a shame if you missed out something your partner wanted to try just because you wouldn’t let go of control ❓
Think about the freedom that would open up when you let go of things.
Of course we don’t encourage you to let go completely, because the unknown can create a huge sense of discomfort.
There’s a sweet balance in between, and we should strive to find that. Our controlling side and our relaxed side can co-exist. ⚖️
There’s actually a really nice saying about this: tie your donkey to a strong post, let God take care of the rest!
Do what you need to do, take a good stand and let the rest be independent of you.
That can help you focus your energy elsewhere, be more aware of the things that give you joy in life which can improve your mental, physical and emotional health.
And the cherry on the cake would be a more enjoyable love life. ❤️
So control only the bit that you can, and then let yourself to the magic of the moment. ✨
We know it’s not very easy to practice, but it's worth a try.
If you want to get a bit more comfortable with that idea, we encourage you to listen to our 7 minute guided meditation prepared specifically for that.
Take a listen to the podcast at the top of the page. ☝️
Enjoy and flow with the beautiful unpredictability of life with Biyaku. 💜
If you want more, you can find more guided meditations in our ‘‘Life Teachings of Tantra’’ course. Check it out: 👇
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